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The brain’s only function is to think, think all the time, nonstop 24-7.
What are the odds we think inappropriate thoughts?
Somebody’s gotta be the gate keeper – a Control speciality.
Control’s motto:
Once Controlled, Always Controlled
We really must think of a more descriptive name for Control. Thoughts? We’ve settled on General Kala and several others to start. It depends upon the degree of control exerted determines the name.
It takes a paradigm shift of the magnitude of a 2 x 4 blow to the forehead to convince Control sometines to lower her guard long enough to hold a discussion and it better be worth her while. Nothing sets her off faster than a waste of her precious time.
Monitor the Memories
Chaos, on the other hand, takes to extremes any and all thoughts, ideas, scenarios to present to the self as viable possibilities for action. No conscience what so ever.
The psyche doesn’t stand a chance against a random below the belt hit memory if you don’t govern the thoughts you think.
We were intrigued by the simplicity of the ERG theory (Existen
General Kala
ce, Relatedness and Growth). In fact, so smitten we were to the ERG visualized, identified and divided our shebrain into 3 distinct personalities.
- Existence – protector – denies self examination for our own good
- Growth – Always learning – the judge and decider
- Chaos – the unspeakable – provider of inappropriate, salacious, taudry, painful, wrong thoughts and memories
This mind map is useful as a mental guide to travel or brain-walk through those 3o’clock in the morning reoccuring, anxiety producing memories.
It occurred to us a good idea to apply rationality and reason to examine, identify and categorize our troubling, unresolved, anxiety-producing thoughts/memories.
When we feel anxiety at at 3:00a.m. the triangle of me, myself and I come together to discuss the source of these feelings, their validity, meaningfulness, importance.
Together we work to identify and resolve the cause of the anxiety or guilt feeling.
Identify the anxiety. Animal, Vegetable or Mineral?
Does this anxiety threaten our survival?
- Food
- Money
- Job
Is this anxiety related to an unresolved memory?
- Parents
- Children
- Boss
Break it down. Divide and conquer. Take the issues apart. Mentally walk each thought or memories individually, one at a time, through the steps in the map and examine objectively by allowing each entity to speak.
- What is the value of the thought or memory?
- Is it a stereotype?
- Can it be updated?
- Is it necessary to keep?
- Is it worthy of keeping?
- Worthy of consideration?
What To Do With Useless Memories?
There are two places where we send unwanted, unresolvable thoughts and memories.
If the anxiety producing memory involves loved ones, deceased relatives, pets.
- Golden Palace – Banned Forever – a Palace of Wonderfulness from which there is no return.
- Where every needs or want is met
- Where love and pleasant thought reign.
- A place where even Mom and Dad can get along enough to watch over dead pets – memories of which are also forever banned to the palace.
- Golden Palace – Banned Forever – a Palace of Wonderfulness from which there is no return.
- Black Hole – Banned Forever – good riddance from which there is no return.
- If the anxiety is of no redeeming value and nothing possibly to gain with letting it hang like cobwebs – nuke it.
- Forgive ourself
- Perp-walk the bad memory into the Black Hole
- Forever banish, no possibility of return
File away into the archives, resolved conflicts worth re-pondering for nostalgia or something. It’s a self-forgiving process.
Ultimate Self Forgiving
Go to a quiet, safe place where you won’t be interrupted. Conjure in your mind your perfect parents. Not your real parents but parents imagined to provide you perfect unconditional love and admiration.
Inspired by Sherlock Holmes Mind Palace. Why not apply that same organization technique with thoughts and memories to perform a defragging of the brain to get rid of the useless, meaningless and unresolvable.
These days once we start feeling anxious we stop everything to find the memory that triggered the impulse or feeling so we can run it through the BrainMap and weigh the evidence on the Scale of Personal BS. It works for us.
